{"id":885,"date":"2017-03-24T12:00:31","date_gmt":"2017-03-24T12:00:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/broadlingerie.com\/home\/?p=885"},"modified":"2017-03-12T21:41:09","modified_gmt":"2017-03-12T21:41:09","slug":"when-should-gets-in-the-way","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/broadlingerie.com\/home\/when-should-gets-in-the-way\/","title":{"rendered":"When “Should” Gets In The Way"},"content":{"rendered":"

Women are inundated with rules and advice and suggestions all day, every day. Whether it\u2019s magazines, or Youtube ads (or vloggers) or your big sister – there are a lot of \u201cshoulds\u201d floating around. And plenty make their way into the fitting room. I hear a lot of things like:<\/span><\/p>\n

“I know I should<\/i> be wearing an underwire bra…but I hate them!”<\/strong><\/p>\n

“I feel like I should<\/i> have a beige bra…but I want colour!”<\/strong><\/p>\n

“I probably should<\/i> be wearing a swimsuit with more coverage…but I love bikinis!”<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"This

This wirefree version of Elomi’s Cate is just dreamy!<\/p><\/div>\n

Let\u2019s throw away some <\/span>shoulds<\/span><\/i>. I don\u2019t think they\u2019re really helping anyone. If anything, they just seem to muddy the waters and confuse us! Here are a few ways to decide which lingerie <\/span>shoulds<\/span><\/i> to ditch.<\/span><\/p>\n

Where did it come from?<\/span><\/h4>\n

I think a lot of us have this bossy, sort of mean little voice in our heads that just lives to tell us what we\u2019re doing wrong. (If I\u2019m the only one with this voice, please don\u2019t tell me!) But just because it\u2019s noisy, doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s right. The next time it gets mouthy with you, turn the tables. Ask that voice where it got its information! I find this takes some of its authority away, like pulling back the curtain to find that the wizard\u2019s not so great and powerful after all.<\/span><\/p>\n

Can you think of a good reason for it?<\/span><\/h4>\n

As a little girl, my parents taught me that I should look both ways before crossing the street. I\u2019d say that\u2019s a good <\/span>should<\/span><\/i>, since it keeps me, you know…alive. I can think of no such dire consequences for lingerie \u201cmistakes.\u201d Yes, there are elements of bra fit<\/a> that can help with back or shoulder pain, but even that isn\u2019t true for every body. What\u2019s a must for one person is a maybe (or a never) for someone else. Which brings me to our next question…<\/span><\/p>\n

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Sculptresse’s Chi Chi in this bright palm print is so much fun!<\/p><\/div>\n

Does it fit your lifestyle?<\/span><\/h4>\n

There\u2019s no bra that\u2019s one size fits all, right? Ditto advice. It\u2019s like those articles on \u201cTop 10 Wardrobe Must-Haves.\u201d They always put a white button down shirt on those lists, and I can\u2019t be the only one who has zero use for such a thing. Spills and stains aside, I don\u2019t work in an office or have a professional dress code, so that particular <\/span>should<\/span><\/i> wouldn\u2019t do me any good. And if you never wear sheer or light coloured clothes, a beige or nude bra isn\u2019t going to do you any good, no matter how many people say you need to have one.<\/span><\/p>\n

You are the expert on your own life. Hate underwire? Live your life in wirefree bliss! Want colourful lingerie? Pick bras that make you feel like a glamorous butterfly! Secretly long for a bikini? Spend the whole summer in one! <\/span>Shoulds<\/span><\/i> be damned! In the immortal words of Beyonc\u00e9, you\u2019re a grown woman<\/a>, and you can do whatever you want.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Women are inundated with rules and advice and suggestions all day, every day. Whether it\u2019s magazines, or Youtube ads (or vloggers) or your big sister – there are a lot of \u201cshoulds\u201d floating around. And plenty make their way into […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,7],"tags":[44,9,31,16,19,32,17,143,144,142,18,73],"class_list":["post-885","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog","category-the-bra-fitter-diaries","tag-bikini","tag-bra-fitting","tag-bra-wardrobe","tag-bras","tag-danforth","tag-elomi","tag-lingerie","tag-rules","tag-sculptresse","tag-should","tag-toronto","tag-wirefree"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/broadlingerie.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/885","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/broadlingerie.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/broadlingerie.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/broadlingerie.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/broadlingerie.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=885"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"https:\/\/broadlingerie.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/885\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":898,"href":"https:\/\/broadlingerie.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/885\/revisions\/898"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/broadlingerie.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=885"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/broadlingerie.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=885"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/broadlingerie.com\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=885"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}